Sometimes you have to choose
On Thursday I said that I became a minister after feeling a “calling” when I was seventeen. It was a very natural thing for me, having grown up in the the culture of southern, evangelical Christianity. My father was a Baptist minister. Our lives revolved around the church. We were there whenever the doors were open, and if the doors were locked, my dad had the key. Virtually all of our family friends were Christian insiders, many of them ministers. My best friends were in the youth group at the church. I was aware that many people did not go to church as often as we did and were not Christians, but those people lived in another world. Our world was a safe one, nestled within the walls of the church.
It wasn’t until I started this blog back in 2002 that things began to change. Suddenly I found myself interacting with all sorts of people. Some were from faith traditions very different from my own. Some from no faith traditions at all. It was thrilling for me. I wrote this in an attempt to describe how it felt to me at the time.
Now if that’s all there was to this, it wouldn’t be much of a story. A minister suddenly finds the world is a bigger place than he imagined. Good for him.
But something else happened. I started falling in love with you guys. I know, I know, I know, that sounds incredibly sappy. And I feel as embarrassed as the first time you tell someone you love them. But YES, I do. So just shut up, okay? I have come to know many of you over the years, and we’ve become great friends. I’ve met you through emails, comments, in the old rlp chat room, and all over the internet. I’ve been invited to preach at other churches, lead retreats, and once I did a wedding for two bloggers. I think things came to a head when we did those three RLP retreats at our church in 2008. I didn’t know it at the time, but that was probably the beginning of the end of my time as the pastor of Covenant Baptist Church.
Maybe I can just say it this way: Somewhere along the way, this bog became more than a hobby. It became its own kind of calling. And every calling takes a lot of energy. I’ve tried to be both Real Live Preacher and the pastor of Covenant Baptist Church for many years. I did not walk away from this church lightly. Lord knows I did the best I could to be both a good writer and a good pastor. I haven’t been the best pastor over the last few years. I kind of ran out of energy. And my writing has suffered too.
I had to choose. For the next season of my life, Real Live Preacher is my calling. For better or for worse, that’s what I’m going to do. I will continue to work at Jethro part time to help make a living, but writing is my vocation.
It is done. It is a done deal. I’m nervous, because I have to find ways to make a living as a writer. But I think I will. So I’m not worried. Just mindful of that reality. And I feel a little lost. I’ve been at Covenant for 20 years. Being the pastor of this community has been my identity. I’m going to stay away from Covenant while they sort things out for themselves. I’m hopeful that I can find a way to remain a part of the faith community without being the pastor. We’ll see how that goes.
rlp
Coming next: How hard it was to tell my dear friends at Covenant that I could not continue to be their pastor.



writing as a ministry
Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 16:11.Your writing has encouraged, inspired and challenged me over the last year in my own journey. I think you are making the right choice by following the muse God gave you!
Mark
Give them room
Submitted by alan on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 16:16.In the Presbyterian tradition when a pastor leaves a congregation (retires or moves on) it is frowned on for him or her to stay too close to the old church. This can be a challenge for the pastor's family. They often have many friends in the congregation and it is awkward when the pastor has to pull back but they want to stay.
Give the folks at Covenant space. There will be grieving and eventually getting to know the next pastor. You don't want to get in her or his way.
We love you too,
alan
I feel bad for Covenant, but ...
Submitted by Satchel Pooch on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 17:52.... I have a funny feeling that you're right. "Down here among the unclean," as Lyle Lovett sang, we need you bad. So thanks.
To The Readers Of RLP
Submitted by DSpitko (not verified) on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 17:58.To all of you who value RLP, write expressions of support and that you will be there for Gordon, and espouse the positive effect RLP has been to your lives ~ I ask this question. Are you a Subscriber/Friend of RLP?
It is not Gordon’s nature to ask this, so I will. Will you please become a Subscriber/Friend of RLP?
We who visit RLP gain from Gordon’s writing. Some more than others – but we all gain. When we attend a concert, unless someone else has paid the musician, we buy a ticket. We sit down and benefit from the musician’s efforts. There is a simple quid pro quo. We benefit and the musician earns a living so s/he can continue on with his/her artistry.
Gordon has not made (and I am certain never will make) people pay admission to read RLP. Just like NPR – we can visit RLP for free. We can benefit from Gordon’s writing without financially supporting it if we so choose. But, is that fair?
It is maddening to me that in our society people have to take an oath of near poverty to engage in the creative professions. I am very close to many incredibly skilled full time orchestral musicians who have to work like dogs to earn $30 - $35K per year and have no health insurance. Is the community of RLP willing to perpetuate this economic model here, in this place?
Gordon has made a life choice to write. Is it not time for the followers of this blog, who consume and benefit from his writing, to not just comment – but also to financially support his decision? If 100 readers of this blog agreed to donate $20/month (that is less than 1 tank of gas), that would raise $24,000 annually. This would be a giant step to enable Gordon to devote his immense talents to his writing. Who knows where this will lead.
I used the example of $20/month, but as they say during NPR fundraisers – any amount will make a difference in the life of this blog, and in the life of its writer. It is time to step up to the plate and make a difference in Gordon’s life – as he has made such a difference in ours.
I am a Subscriber/Friend of RLP. Will you please become a Subscriber/Friend of RLP? http://www.reallivepreacher.com/subscribe
Dave
I agree with Dave
Submitted by wfinley on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 18:44.Dave,
Thank you for the reminder. I just increased my subscription level.
Blessing,
Bill
bill.finley@gmail.com
Dave, thanks. Um, I'm going
Submitted by rlp on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 20:24.Dave,
thanks. Um, I'm going to talk about this perhaps in weeks to come. I truly do have to be honest enough to say that I'm seeking to make some money for the work of writing. And yet also somehow keep this from being something crass and "all about the money." I'm thinking about how to do that. Your words are kind and I appreciate the sentiment behind them.
ProBlogger blog?
Submitted by evan on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 19:09.Hi, Gordon.
Just wondering if you are aware of the ProBlogger blog? The founder, Darren Rowse happens to be a local (Melbourne, Australia) who I've met a couple of times at various church related things. Good guy.
I would imagine that it feels like a knife twisting in your gut, but don't be shy of exploring different ways of monetising your writing career.
Best of luck.
Evan
Yes.
Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 20:17.I think you're getting to the heart of it. We're still listening.
gah,
Submitted by casey rousseau on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 20:18.that was me.
fgbk,
Submitted by Anonymous on Sun, 02/07/2010 - 12:08.stupid
Writing for us
Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 20:40.I've always known that this blog and your writing was a calling. I have faithfully read everything you have published here and there, along with the books. You have adopted us into your family and ministered to us in many ways. I think you should continue to foster your faith and maybe revisit some of the churches and communities that you found appealing, (like the Quakers) and that little church in Creede.
Your church got bigger when you started writing here and I think we all know that. We are your church, your people, your flock. Now you have to find the balance of life there and life here. What will your ministry here grow to be? And how will you grow yourself, and what is your new mandate if this is to be the next incarnation of your calling? That remains to be seen.
But if you aren't feeding your faith there in some way, how can you maintain a ministry here. You just can't walk away from Church. You may speak to God in the field, that doesn't mean you have to stop seeking him in a church or a meeting hall. You can't feed others if you aren't being fed yourself. So remember that.
Keep writing.
Here I was planning a trip to SAT in July for a conference over July 4th weekend and you aren't going to be at the church. I hope I will find you somewhere else, so that we can visit while I am there. I really want to see you - that is part of my journey there.
Jeremy in Montreal.
Prayers for you
Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 21:23.I started praying for you during your unusual time of silence the past few months, and now I will continue to pray. Transitions are hard -- even if they're chosen. I admire you for your strength in venturing to the unknown and for your discernment of God's CONTINUING call, in whatever form that is.
I book that I've found helpful is "Transitions" by William Bridges. Don't get put off by the self-help-y cover --- I think there's some gospel in there :-)
~praying
God's blessings on you,
Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 21:33.God's blessings on you, Gordon. Keep it coming... (As soon as you activate my user account again I'll sign up!)
--textjunkie
Cool.
Submitted by Anonymous on Mon, 02/01/2010 - 23:01.Very cool.
Where are you in those pictures, anyway? It looks like Circuit City.
Sara
Smelled It Coming...
Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 01:35.Our lives intersected for a mere blink of any eye, but I knew this was coming. I think that's why my husband and I hesitated situating ourselves in Covenant. There was definitely a transition afoot. Plus, I have to admit the drive was really long. =)
It's an exciting time -- venturing out and figuring out for yourself what God's calling for your life truly is, beyond what others have spoken into you throughout your entire life. Outside, I've found not only more freedom to speak and think and study, but more peace and mental clarity. The peace and clarity are what make us appear so sure-footed, I think.
I'm still a big believer that most of our nurturing from God takes place in quiet moments...not necessarily large church gatherings. However, I also believe that if we don't ever get out of ourselves, then we lose opportunity to interact with, experience and share His love as we were created to.
May you find peace in your decision and joy that continues to fuel your spirit.
Warmest regards,
Audrey
yes, yes, yes!
Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 03:40.I hear, understand, and admire your decision. They ring bells in my own head. Go for it, rlp.
little bead - little bead -
Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 07:10.little bead - little bead - little bead - little bead - little bead - little bead - little bead - little bead - little bead - little bead - big bead - . . .
Hey Gordon, there were times
Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 08:26.Hey Gordon, there were times back in the early 2000's, when I was working in a fairly conservative Episcopal diocese, that it seemed like you were the only voice of sanity and nuance in the Christian world. I know now that's an exaggeration (and things have changed some since then, thankfully), but there were certainly times I read your blog and it saved my day from becoming an ungrateful slog through small mindedness, many times it re-opened a window to the Divine when I sorely needed it. So, yes, this blog has been a ministry and a calling for many many years. Prayers for you and your family as you move forward in discerning what's next. Thanks for all the ways you've shared so much of yourself with us here.
(I love the little photos that are accompanying these posts.
and also the "little bead, little bead, big bead" comment above!)
Echoing Dave
Submitted by Simon on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 09:00.-
To echo Dave's comment above, I've been a subscriber of RLP for just about as long as it's been an option. This is easily the best content I pay for on the net. It is not the only content I pay for, but the quality far surpasses anything else. Best bang for the buck 'round these parts.
Also, Gordon, I like how in this post's picture it is your head moving into the frame rather than the point-of-view moving to encompass you. (You can tell from the background.) Your movement into a still perspective is more representative of the change you're making here. Just wanted to give you my impression of the photos. And your face not being fully in frame, even by the fourth shot, itself says something more. I like the symbolism, is all.
Simon
Yeah, point of view. I uh,
Submitted by rlp on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 10:41.Yeah, point of view. I uh, was thinking about that. And not just snapping photos and realizing I wasn't in view. LOL.
seriously, I did actually plan the shot but not with any thought. Just gut.
Errr...um...
Submitted by Anonymous on Tue, 02/02/2010 - 20:39.I love you too.
Sparks
still showing up as "anonymous" in the preview pane, though I logged in. And my comment ended up on the wrong post. not sure if it's me or the site.
It's the site. I'm going to
Submitted by rlp on Wed, 02/03/2010 - 07:59.It's the site. I'm going to upgrade to drupal 6, probably next week. should fix it.
My dear RLP
Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 02/04/2010 - 06:28.What a momentous decision. I am writing this with tears in my eyes. I hope your friends and flock at covenant will understand.
I am a subscriber and a member of the consafo team and if there is anything I can do from so far across the pond - tell me.
I will be praying for you - for Jeanene, for the three sisters and for covenant.
Go with God
Oh and I love you too though we have never physically met we are well met in the heart of God
ScoG blog
Sometimes Your Calling To Choose You
Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 02/04/2010 - 11:51.Hi Gordon,
I was just over at Marcus' blog -- and got pointed over here. Glad I did.
I loved the title of this post. There were immediate flashbacks to some tough ground I had to till. It's never less than daunting to leave what's familiar and safe, to pursue something that is alluring and unknown. But, fast forward to today -- having the benefit of hindsight -- I know that faith holds those same qualities.
And it's breathtaking when the point of knowing it's the most right and sensible thing to do. And let your calling choose you.
I just joined High Callings Blogs -- and look forward to seeing all He has in store. As faith and work connects through the ministry of words.
Sometimes Your Calling Chooses You
Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 02/04/2010 - 11:57.Oops. Fast fingers... :)
Signing off --
Bonnie Gray of FaithBarista.com
Kindred Spirit
Submitted by Anonymous on Thu, 02/04/2010 - 19:20.Dear Gordon,
I am a retired United Methodist minister, having served almost forty years as a pastor. Last week a friend and colleague loaned me the book RealLivePreacher.Com.
Once I started reading it, I couldn't put it down. At last, I thought, someone has put into words what I have felt for forty plus years. I too was fortunate to serve churches that for the most part accepted my ambiguities and doubts. I refused to be put in a box that others pertained for me. Like you, real life dramas that unfolded during my ministry in the parishes I served helped mold my faith, or at times lack thereof. I've had a good run, with no regrets and more than enough experiences of grace to fill one lifetime. If there are any regrets, it is for the continued narrowness and parochialism I sense in many of the 'religious.'
Anyhow, at a noon lunch today I shared some of your words with five friends who are also retired (not clergy) and involved in the same life journey of trying to figure out "What's it all about, Alfie?" They were most impressed by my reporting. So, I decided this evening to search the internet under RealLivePreacher.Com and see what this blog thing was all about. There I found the news of your decision to leave Covenant Baptist Church to pursue the calling of being a writer. I have no doubt that it is a calling and that God will be able to use you in some marvelous ways, as She has already demonstrated. You have a wonderful gift to touch the lives and imaginations of folks who are often left by the roadside of organized religion because they refuse to be phoney or give up their integrity.
May 'The love' be with you,
Shalom,
Dave of Maine
Thanks Dave, gordon
Submitted by rlp on Sun, 02/14/2010 - 22:19.Thanks Dave,
gordon
God calls and we answer
Submitted by Anonymous on Sun, 02/07/2010 - 06:28.May God be with you and family. I will keep you in my prayers. Go where God leads, You will know soon enough, or you may know now. Love and prayers. Mary